If you have been awake a while, get out of bed. Not because lying there is dangerous, but because lying awake in bed is the thing that teaches your body the bed is a place for being awake. That is the association making tomorrow harder.
What to do
- Leave the bedroom. Somewhere else, dim light, comfortable.
- Do something quiet and slightly boring. A dull book. Not work, not news, not anything with a scroll.
- Go back when you feel sleepy — genuinely sleepy, heavy-eyed, not merely tired of sitting up.
- If it happens again, do it again. Some nights that is three times.
- Get up at your usual time anyway. Sleeping in shifts the whole problem into tomorrow night.
This is stimulus control, one of the components of CBT-I. It is dull, it is unglamorous, and it works slowly rather than tonight.
Don't check the clock
Knowing it is 2:47 changes nothing about whether you fall asleep, and it starts the arithmetic — how long is left, how bad tomorrow will be — which is arousal, and arousal is the opposite of what you need. Turn the clock away. Put the phone across the room.
The night itself is not the problem to solve
Waking in the night is normal. Everyone surfaces at the end of each sleep cycle; most of the time nobody notices. What turns a normal wake into an hour awake is the reaction to it.